As legend has it, "boy meets girl... falls in love and marries girl", they court, travel around the world together, pursue their careers, a few years later, they have or adopt a baby, they purchase a home, a couple years after that, they have or adopt another baby and either live happily ever after or get divorced.
I did everything backwards.
I bought my house and started a business on my own. Then I adopted a baby and brought her home from Kazakhstan. Nine months later, I met my husband. We moved in together. Travelled together with baby Jiana and Danielle and Jonah, his two kids from his previous marriage. Kids fight like siblings in backseat of car. Parent cling together for dear life and bond over craziness of traveling with kids. Then we bought a house together and 14 months later we got engaged and married 10 months after that. Then we travelled alone together.
The benefit of doing things this way is you really get to kick the tires on the relationship. You can't dwell too much on your fantasies of how great it's going to be when you are drowning in dishes and laundry and kids who would rather take things out then put them away.
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